Leaders must work with people. People have emotions and emotions drive our decision making and our behavior. For a simple explanation of how this happens, check out this short article by clinical psychologist, Dr. Mary Lamia: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/intense-emotions-and-strong-feelings/201012/it-or-not-emotions-will-drive-the-decisions-you-mak. If you want to lead people effectively, you need to be very aware of not only what your emotions are signaling to you, but also of what is happening emotionally with the individuals and teams you lead.
Recently I was reminded of a quote from Benjamin Franklin that I have used quite often as a good one in reference to empowering and encouraging ministry through hands-on doing ministry and getting involved. The quote is: “Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.”
On the ABC political drama Scandal, DC fixer Olivia Pope leads a team of “gladiators in suits” who make the problems of Washington’s rich and powerful disappear discretely. As the series progresses, we learn the backstory of how she assembled Pope and Associates and why the group works together so effectively.
It’s the New Year and many of us think about how we might improve our lives this year over the last. Resolving to change is a good thing. But how? A lot goes into making a lasting change in our lives, but there is one piece of it that many fail to master: SEEKING AND ACCEPTING FEEDBACK.
Take a quick look at this 30-second ad from Southwest Airlines: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YpV41xfGcuw.
“If it matters to you, it matters to us.” Sometimes in ministry, we prefer to reverse that statement and add a word for the guilt effect. We might say, “If it matters to us, it should matter to you.” Churches can become so wrapped up in their own preservation that they forget their mission. They forget that their purpose is to serve the needs of others… from the perspective of the others.
A lot of church work is done in meetings, and church leaders often resist making meetings better and more productive. Church meetings are about ministry, church leaders say, not about business. Yet, often churches have a lot of business leaders who participate in church meetings. If you don’t adapt your meeting style somewhat to make business leaders feel more at home, you’ll end up with only relational people in your meetings. You want both: business people and relational people in addition to those called to ministry. Try these tips.
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